Proverbs By Efua makes work clothes for a cause – ending Human Trafficking. It’s a brand that’s meant to inspire and make the world a better place.
I’ve learned 12 key things so far while trying to launch Proverbs By Efua. Every Wednesday, I’ll expand on each insight.
Insight 4: Opinions, Opinions, Opinions
Since the beginning of humanity, we have been gifted with free will. Some may say that free will is the same as freethinking, or the free ability to have and voice opinions. Having opinions is a very good thing. It’s part of what makes us all unique. Opinions make politicians, presidents, doctors, teachers, comedians, entrepreneurs and even lawyers. Surprisingly, there are still people who claim to not have opinions. I get so confused by such people because I’m not sure how that’s possible. But that’s neither here nor there.
Unfortunately, opinions can also be very difficult to deal with, especially when they are negative and unsolicited. This interesting phenomenon (unsolicited opinions) tends to occur most frequently when a person plans on doing something new or maybe even something odd. It especially occurs when this person puts his/her old career path on hold and takes the frightful jump to start his/her own business.
I say all this because the majority of the time, many unsolicited opinions will be freely-given when one embarks unto something new. These opinions tend not be encouraging and may cause you to question your new decision and sometimes even your entire being. This isn’t necessarily bad, especially if the opinions may not be what you want to hear, but are constructive nonetheless. Either way, these can be difficult to digest, leaving you often on the defensive.
I’ve heard it all. Even the pets I don’t have, had opinions! It was either too big or too small, too long or too short, too bright or too dull, too this or too that. Have I tried this, have I tried that? Have I thought of this, have I thought of that? Another company does this. Why don’t you do that too? Don’t do this. Don’t do that. Do this. Do that. And of course, woof woof sniff sniff ? Sniff sniff woof woof ? (From my non-existent pets).
One thing I’m learning more and more as I embark on this journey is that no one will ever share with me the exact same means to my vision and I can’t/shouldn’t expect them to either. That being said, people’s opinions, though sometimes very difficult to swallow, help to either solidify or destroy the vision. People will always give their negative, destructive, and unsolicited opinions. There is no app for (to cure) that. Ultimately, the question is whether you strongly believe in your vision. If you don’t, the million and one opinions will truly run you over.
So you want to start something new or you want to start your own business but, your are overwhelmed by all the opinions. Well, here are some things you can do to manage these:
- Ask yourself if there is any truth to these opinions- you have to maintain an open mind
- Do you trust their intent
- Are the opinions executable
- If none of the above apply, hang on to your vision, smile, nod, and keep on moving.
Stay tuned next Wednesday for Insight 5: People will surprise you